Another Post

I know I have just posted an unimportant post here a few minutes ago but I feel like posting another one now. This thing just came up to my mind just now (well actually it came up because I read something, but I'm not gonna say what I read here). That thing, that certain thing remind me of this : "every good relationship has a reacher and a settler". I first know this thing from How I Met Your Mother S05E13 where Marshall have a colleague named Jenkins whom Lily mistakenly thought as a guy from Marshall's stories. Anywho, you can read the synopsis of the episode from the link above, so I will continue my post. When I finished watching this episode it gets me thinking about my own relationship.

I think I am the reacher, I'm not proud of it but I always be the one jealous. Well actually this reacher-settler isn't only based on jealousy but it pretty much explain the reacher-settler thing briefly. However, in the end of the episode, Lily can still be jealous when Jenkins actually kissed Marshall. So I guess whoever the settler and the reacher, it doesn't matter. Because, "every GOOD relationship has a reacher and a settler". And that's the point, the whole reacher and settler is something that balanced the relationship. If in a relationship both are the reacher, they will never stop fighting of jealousy. And if both are the settler then there will be no jealousy, which sometimes is needed to mend your relationship. If it's broken and no one care, no one will glue it and try to fix it, and in the end it will just be broken and without anyone noticing. So if a relationship is a vase, then a jealousy is something that broke a part of the relationship, and when the couple talk about it and fix it, it's like the broken part is glued and the vase is back in a good shape. yes it does leave a mark, but it is still better than not being fixed at all :)

However, I would like to be the settler sometimes, in another kind of relationship (I never wish my relationship with my current boyfriend will ever end), maybe in a friendship, or in a family. I just want to know what does it feel to be someone who is needed and that someone is afraid of losing me. maybe it will feel nice :)

That's all I wanna say on the topic. And by the way I have just ordered a voucher for all you can eat ice cream ;D and it still in process. Wish me luck because the time is ticking and I realllllyyyyy wanna get the voucher. Can't wait to have a date with Ema :D

Okay I think I'm gonna end it here. Goodnight all, goodnight world :)